Be Aware of what you Say to Her

Be aware of what you say to her…
She listens.
She watches. She takes it all in.
She thinks you are beautiful.
Stop telling her you are on a diet.
She listens when you say you are fat, ugly or when things are wrong..
She listens as you cry, swear, step on the scale every single day and maybe several times a day and speak badly about yourself.

Because in her eyes, she will one day remember..
The perfume you wore.
The days out to the cinema.
Having snowball fights in winter.
Picnics in the summer holidays.
How you lovingly plaited her hair.
NOT the fat stomach, the cellulite, the stretchmarks that you see, or how awful you feel after a “cheat day” or a day you missed the gym.

Change your words to “eating healthily” and “eating nutritious food”, exercising to be “stronger” and “healthier” instead of diet diet diet and using exercise to punish your body.
Because she is listening.
She is watching.
She is taking it all in.
And she will remember……everything ❤❤

The way we speak to ourselves has a profound impact on our well-being

When we are struggling or things aren’t going our way, it can be all too easy to respond with self-criticism and harsh words. But this only serves to increase our suffering.

Research shows the power of self-compassion – speaking to ourselves with the same kindness, care, and understanding we would show a friend in need. When we make mistakes, we all need forgiveness. Having inner warmth and goodwill for ourselves makes difficulties more bearable and provides perspective to keep going.

A kind, encouraging inner voice treats us as we deserve to be treated – with respect. How we talk to ourselves matters. With self-compassion, our burdens feel lighter and we’re better able to pick ourselves up, learn, and grow.

We do it for ourselves, and we do it keeping in mind that we are the first and most  important example for our children. They notice, and they will copy our behavior bringing it with them all the way into their own adulthood.