The term gaslighting is thrown around everywhere today because our communication skills are so underdeveloped, that we believe disagreement is a threat.
Gaslighting involves intentional deception. It is a real and serious problem. Taken to extremes, it can even drive a person insane.
Gaslighting is psychological abuse. Unfortunately, it is very common in relationships, and also a form of social and political manipulation.
Gaslighting is a form of manipulation concentrated on making the recipient doubt her /his memory, […]
Relationships
Confirmation Bias
What is Confirmation Bias?
How can we Mitigate it?
Confirmation bias is one of the most well-documented and pervasive cognitive biases.
It refers to the tendency to search for, interpret, favor, and recall information in a way that confirms or supports one’s prior beliefs, values, or hypotheses, while ignoring, undervaluing, or dismissing contradictory evidence.
Core definition and mechanisms confirmation bias operates on multiple levels:
Selective search: Actively seeking evidence that supports what you already think. […]
The Blind Men and the Elephant
The Parable of the Blind Men and the Elephant.
A long time ago in a village in India, there lived six blind men who had never seen an elephant. One day, word spread that a magnificent elephant had arrived in the village. Curious to understand what this creature was like, the six blind men went to examine it. Each man touched a different part of the elephant:
The first man approached the elephant’s side and felt its broad, […]
The DARVO Tactic
The DARVO Tactic is one of the most disorienting manipulation tactics out there, and once you know what it is, you’ll start seeing it everywhere.
What does the term stand for?
DENY
ATTACK and
REVERSE VICTIM and
OFFENDER
It’s a way to shift blame away from the abuser and make you seem like the one at fault. […]
Walking on Eggshells
What does it Feel like Walking on Eggshells?
In a safe relationship you thrive. You feel safe to be who you are. Emotions are disclosed and talked about.
In our early childhood, some of us were conditioned to mind read, walk on egg shells, and be responsible for people’s emotions. We were hyper vigilant because we had to be, but not any more.
Walking on eggshells around someone can be one of the most mentally and emotionally draining experiences. […]
The High Cost of Avoiding Self-Work
I know it can be super tempting to just sweep things under the rug and avoid dealing with the tough stuff, but trust me, that avoidance ends up costing you big time down the road.
I’ve seen it happen time and time again – people who just keep putting off that self-work, whether it’s addressing unhealthy patterns in their relationships, getting their finances in order, or taking care of their physical and mental health.
And you know what happens? […]
Why we should never Ignore our Intuition
Intuition, often referred to as a “gut feeling,” is a powerful inner voice that guides us through life’s most challenging decisions and situations.
It is a natural instinct that has been honed over centuries of human evolution, providing us with a unique form of wisdom that transcends logic and reason.
Ignoring our intuition can lead to regrettable consequences. It’s that nagging feeling in the back of our minds, warning us of potential dangers or guiding us towards opportunities that may not be immediately apparent. […]
A Nurturing Mothering Presence in your Life
This week, I invite you to take a moment to contemplate what your mother is /was like. What is/was your relationships with your mother like? What important lessons have you learned from her?
No relationship is perfect, of course. I’m sure there were some challenges, and some very beautiful moments you two spent together.
Some of us have a “mother wound.” I had a very tumultuous relationship with my mother growing up. We both had some great times together but also many moments that left profound emotional scars in me. […]
The Greatest Burden
“The greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of the parents.”
It’s a heavy truth. When parents don’t chase their dreams or heal their wounds, the weight of their unresolved issues often falls on their kids.
When parents have unresolved issues, unfulfilled hopes, unspoken regrets, or suppressed passions, they often unconsciously project them on to their children.
This can create a lot of pressure for the son or daughter to fulfill what his/her parent could not. […]
How do you Fix Conflict?
Ever wonder why some couples fall apart after a few years while others seem to grow even stronger?
It’s not because they never fight. It’s because they know how to repair.
Unresolved conflict isn’t just a disagreement, it leaves behind emotional wounds.
Over time, those wounds stack up. Small issues turn into major resentments. Emotional safety erodes.
And eventually, partners start feeling like roommates instead of lovers.
Here’s what people get wrong:
💥 They assume time will heal the issue. […]
