This week, I invite you to take a moment to contemplate what your mother is /was like. What is/was your relationships with your mother like? What important lessons have you learned from her?
No relationship is perfect, of course. I’m sure there were some challenges, and some very beautiful moments you two spent together.
Some of us have a “mother wound.” I had a very tumultuous relationship with my mother growing up. We both had some great times together but also many moments that left profound emotional scars in me.
As I grew older, I realized that she had been blind to the wounds she had inflicted in me. She was the product of her own upbringing, of unresolved traumas, and was acting on unconscious patterns she had learned in her own childhood.
Self-compassion was the first step towards recovery, and eventually forgiveness. Focusing on taking in the love available in our relationship helped me to see who she really was.
And we inevitably learn. We learn what does not work in mother-child relationships so we can break the cycle of generational dysfunction. Life also gifts us with wonderful models.
The beautiful mothering relationship I had with my grandma was one of those gifts. She had that “I love you so much” energy that made me feel so special. In many ways, she helped me heal many of my wounds around being mothered by a complicated mother. With her, I felt I was swimming in an ocean of love and acceptance.
Did you have someone in your life who represented a nurturing mothering presence? It might be your real mom, or it may be another family member, a friend, a teacher, a mentor or even a caring neighbor presence. If that is the case, honor all those opportunities. Remember her, picture her in your mind, and take in any of her loving words, kind gaze, facial expressions, gestures, moments when you felt seen. It will expand your heart and soothe your nervous system.
And if you are a mother yourself, celebrate this magical gift Life has granted you 🙏💕
Ohhhh Monica Thank YOU! THIs is just So Perfect and Touches my Soul!
You have a way of sharing your own life experience with the intent to offer help for others and for THAT and Many other reasons I am Soo Very Blessed to have you in my life!
Thank you for using your GoD-given gifts for Such profound Goodness!
I passed this along to a few others who have “ Mother Wounds” and hope they find it soothing to the heart like I did!
See you SoooN!
Love & Light, Janet
Dear Janet ~ I really appreciate your kind words. Sometimes, in retrospect, we can perceive our mother wound as a gift which allowed us to grow and become who we are today. They say there is no growth in comfort. It only happens through hard challenges. Perhaps that mother wound shaped who we are today in. way no other experience would have done it. Thank you so much for sharing this piece with others.
Thank you for such insightfulness. As in all my relationships I have learned to embrace others do the best they know how. Each of us process the relationship with others from our perspective- right or wrong … is there one? We are all God’s children and our upbringing, environmental exposure, peer group and our own personality add a unique component…. Thank you for sharing that we are all broken in one way or another; yet should embrace and embody LOVE!
Thank you so much for your wise comment. We never leave this planet unscathed. The Creator sends us challenges so we can grow through them. The tougher the challenge, the deeper the growth. We usually resist the experience and it is only much later that we come to appreciate what we have learned through it. Old spiritual teachers recommended to pause and say “This is a gift” when we are going through a struggle because it is a blessing in disguise. The challenge is there to wake us up. We soon learn that we can continue resisting, complaining, and behaving like a victim, which will bring us nowhere, or we can become self aware and use the experience to change ourselves.