We’ve all been there – someone treats us poorly, and our first instinct is to take it personally. We wonder what we did wrong, or why they seem to have such an issue with us.
However, most of the time, it has absolutely nothing to do with us at all.
We are complex beings, dealing with their own baggage, their own fears and insecurities. The way they treat others is often just a reflection of the battles they’re fighting within themselves. […]
Does Time Heal All Wounds?
Do you think time heals all wounds? The ox asked the rabbit.
The rabbit shook her head and replied, I don’t think it’s time that heals. It’s what you do with time that makes us better or worse.
Time can definitely help us gain some perspective and distance from painful experiences. But I don’t think it’s just the passage of time itself that really does the healing.
It’s what we actively do with that time that makes the biggest difference. […]
Don’t Let Others Disrespect You
We live in a world that constantly tells us to be kind, understanding, and forgiving towards others. And that’s great! Compassion is a beautiful thing. But here’s the catch – we can’t let our kindness towards others turn into cruelty towards ourselves.
Don’t make the mistake of being so understanding and forgiving that you overlook the fact that you are being disrespected. It’s a slippery slope. One moment you’re making excuses for someone’s bad behavior, […]
To Avoid Burn Out, Listen to your Body
“Listen to your body when it whispers so it does not have to scream”? It’s so true, and it’s a lesson we have to learn the hard way.
You may be running on fumes, ignoring the little signals your body has been sending you: The occasional headache, that nagging tight feeling in your shoulders, the exhaustion that never seems to go away no matter how much you sleep. You just power through, convincing yourself it is no big deal. […]
Do not Shoot the Second Arrow
Have you ever heard the Buddhist story of The Second Arrow? It’s a powerful metaphor. It teaches us a lot about how we deal with pain and suffering in our lives.
The story goes like this: Imagine you’re out walking in the forest, and suddenly, you get struck by an arrow. Ouch! That first arrow represents the inevitable pain and difficulties we all face in life – physical pain, emotional heartbreak, loss, struggle and so on. […]
Sharing Someone Else’s Wound
My son was on a trip, a semester-long program in Israel, and then they traveled to Poland for 10-days.
On this program, he made a good friend, a new friend, named Mason.
When they got to Poland, they were touring some of the centers of Jewish life before the war. They were also going to the camps.
On the third or fourth day of the time in Poland, Mason disappeared for the day with one of the counselors on the program. […]
Life is Like a Cup of Coffee
Stories can move us and change our state of mind.
That’s how powerful stories can be.
Not long ago, on a day when I had started to feel overwhelmed by too many deadlines, I came across this anonymous lovely story. As soon as I read it, I saw the wisdom in it. I could immediately come back to my center, see things more clearly, from a different perspective and reconnect to what really matters. […]
Three Tools for a Stress-Free Holiday Season
While this time of the year is for some a source of joy and pleasure, for others it can be the biggest trigger of anxiety
We are bombarded with expectations of being happy and generous, and sometimes we may feel inadequate and alone by feeling just the opposite. Such is the case with a client I have been mentoring lately who was going through moments of intense worry as the end of the year is approaching. […]
Boundaries
Boundaries are essential for our well-being. They define where we end and others begin. They protect our sense of self, and create a safe space for us to live our lives. Without proper boundaries, we risk feeling overwhelmed, used, or depleted. Setting limits is an act of self-care & self-love, and they help us maintain a healthy sense of self.
When we don’t set clear limits, we risk losing our identity and individuality as we try to please others. […]
How to Approach Personal Disagreements
This article was published last week in Brainz Magazine under the title 6 Tips To Approach Personal Disagreements.
All of us will encounter challenging conversations at some point in our lives. In a time where there is such a variety of views regarding politics, social norms, climate, religion, wellness and even nutrition, opportunities for discrepancies abound.
Having successful relationships make a big difference in the quality of our experience. In order to do that, […]