High-functioning anxiety is the quiet storm beneath a calm surface.
It’s when you’re crushing it—work, goals, life—but inside, your mind’s racing, overthinking every move, waiting for the other shoe to drop.
You look ‘fine,’ even thriving, yet you’re battling constant worry, perfectionism, rumination or that nagging need to stay busy.
It’s a hidden struggle where success masks the chaos—proof you can be high-achieving and still need a breather. You’re not alone in this; even the strongest carry silent weights. […]
Embodied Experience
4-7-8 Breathing Technique
The 4-7-8 breathing bechnique uses both nostrils. It is used to calm down anxiety and cravings, to speed metabolism, and to fall asleep.
You can also use it when your mind is racing. If you use it regularly for 3 or 4 weeks, you will notice phenomenal changes in your physiology.
Keeping your tongue on the upper ridge of your front teeth, inhale for 4 counts through your nose, hold the breath for 7 counts, […]
Three Tools for a Stress-Free Holiday Season
While this time of the year is for some a source of joy and pleasure, for others it can be the biggest trigger of anxiety
We are bombarded with expectations of being happy and generous, and sometimes we may feel inadequate and alone by feeling just the opposite. Such is the case with a client I have been mentoring lately who was going through moments of intense worry as the end of the year is approaching. […]
Holding Space for Someone
What is to hold space for someone?
Holding space for someone simply means being present for them without judgment. It means allowing someone the time and freedom to feel, process and work through their emotions and experiences in their own way so they can heal.
When you hold space for someone, you listen openly and actively, offer empathy and understanding. You provide a safe container for them to be vulnerable.
You give them the freedom to feel, […]
How to Respond to the Heartbreaking News
So much happens around us every day that tugs at our heartstrings and evokes strong emotions.
We see heartbreaking stories of suffering, injustice and tragedy in the news, on social media and in our communities. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed by the sheer volume of pain out there.
Yet we must find a way to keep our emotional balance. Being overwhelmed with outrage and sorrow helps no one, least of all those who are suffering. […]
Energy Givers & Takers in Relationships
When it comes to relationships, some people are energy givers while others are energy takers.
When there is a “giver” and a “taker,” the relationship is unbalanced and both partners will eventually suffer. Usually the “giver” ends up feeling exhausted and resentful, and the “taker” is the one to leave. That’s why we have to learn to balance the energy within our relationships to achieve harmony and happiness.
Energy givers tend to be positive, […]
When our Emotional World is Set on Fire
Triggers set our emotional world on fire
The stories we weave in our mind become so vivid and rich, even colorful and persuasive sometimes, that we believe our own creative narratives, and we drive ourselves crazy with worry, anxiety, or anger.
In The Path is Everywhere: Uncovering the jewels hidden within you, Matt Licata, PhD, gives an accurate description of what we experience when we are triggered: our emotional world is set on fire. […]
In a Dark Place or Just Been Planted?
Sometimes when you are in a dark place you may feel you have been buried, when in fact you have been planted.
This quote by Christine Caine holds a profound truth about hardship and struggle. When we are going through difficult times, it can feel like we are trapped in darkness with no hope or escape. The quote suggests that what feels like being buried in darkness may actually be a planting – […]
How to work with anger
Monica explores how to meet anger with conscious awareness
This article was first published on Lion’s Roar on June 28, 2022.
While I don’t consider myself an angry person, I have always had an open curiosity about anger. As a child, I remember experiencing deep fear in the chaotic moments of my mother’s angry spells. I felt helpless and anxious, but I suppressed these emotions because of my fear of adding more intensity to my mom’s outbursts, […]
Como trabajar con la ira
Monica Jordan explora como relacionarnos con la ira de una manera consciente
Este artículo fue publicado en Lion’s Roar el 28 de junio de 2022
Aunque no me considero una persona que se enoja fácilmente, siempre he tenido mucha curiosidad con respecto a la ira. Cuando era niña, recuerdo haber experimentado un miedo profundo en los momentos caóticos de ira de mi madre. Me sentía impotente y ansiosa, […]