“The greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of the parents.”
It’s a heavy truth. When parents don’t chase their dreams or heal their wounds, the weight of their unresolved issues often falls on their kids.
When parents have unresolved issues, unfulfilled hopes, unspoken regrets, or suppressed passions, they often unconsciously project them on to their children.
This can create a lot of pressure for the son or daughter to fulfill what his/her parent could not. […]
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Challenges & Personal Growth
Challenges are the fuel for growth, progress, and learning. When we are in the midst of a challenge, we usually feel overwhelmed & discouraged.
We fear that things will never change, that we do not have the resources to navigate the difficulties.
Remembering that things do not happen to us, that they happen FOR us, helps us to take a different perspective.
It may look horrible right now; you may feel that this “winter” in your life will never go by. […]
Holding Space for Someone
Counselors, mentors are facilitators. They guide you on your journey. Rather than fixing or curing someone, a healer holds space for you while you awaken your inner healer, so that you may heal yourself.
Essentially, true healing comes from within. A healer cannot directly heal another person. Their role is to create an environment and provide support that allows the other person to access their own inner resources and capacity for self-healing. […]
When you are Feeling Sad or Overwhelmed
Have you ever felt like you’re drowning in a sea of emotions, and no matter how hard you try to stay afloat, the waves just keep crashing over you? It’s a tough place to be, and I get it – we’ve all been there.
But here’s the thing: just like we wouldn’t hesitate to see a doctor if we had a nasty case of the flu, we shouldn’t hesitate to seek help when our mental health is suffering. […]
Being Different was your Strength All Along
Just imagine the 6-year-old, full of wonder and possibility. At that age, we’re all unique little snowflakes, right? Our quirks and differences are what make us special. But as we get older, society starts trying to put us all in these neat little boxes.
Conform, conform, conform – that’s the message we get from all angles. But you know what? That’s a load of malarkey! Our individuality, our ability to think outside the box, […]
How to Stop Being a People Pleaser – Steps
I know we all want to be liked and accepted, but constantly putting others’ needs before your own is a surefire way to burn out.
Trust me, I’ve been there – the endless cycle of saying yes when you really want to say no, sacrificing your own happiness for the sake of keeping the peace. It’s exhausting, isn’t it? And it carries a hidden cost.
But here’s the thing – you don’t have to live that way anymore. […]
Wish them Well & Let them Go
“Some people will not hear you regardless of how much, how loudly, how truthfully, how lovingly, or how profoundly you speak. Wish them well and let them go.”
Isn’t that just so true? It’s one of those harsh realities that we all have to face at some point in our lives.
No matter how hard we try, no matter how much effort we put into communicating our thoughts and feelings, there will always be people who just don’t get it. […]
The Greatest Act of Self Love
This quote encapsulates a powerful lesson we need to learn about valuing oneself and setting boundaries:
“This year, I learned to step away from people and spaces where I don’t feel valued.
I stopped overexplaining, forcing connections, and seeking validation from others. I trusted my intuition, set boundaries, and removed my energy without guilt.
I realized that protecting my peace is essential and that choosing myself is the greatest act of self-love.”
Isn’t that just so on point? […]
Does Time Heal All Wounds?
Do you think time heals all wounds? The ox asked the rabbit.
The rabbit shook her head and replied, I don’t think it’s time that heals. It’s what you do with time that makes us better or worse.
Time can definitely help us gain some perspective and distance from painful experiences. But I don’t think it’s just the passage of time itself that really does the healing.
It’s what we actively do with that time that makes the biggest difference. […]
Do not Shoot the Second Arrow
Have you ever heard the Buddhist story of The Second Arrow? It’s a powerful metaphor. It teaches us a lot about how we deal with pain and suffering in our lives.
The story goes like this: Imagine you’re out walking in the forest, and suddenly, you get struck by an arrow. Ouch! That first arrow represents the inevitable pain and difficulties we all face in life – physical pain, emotional heartbreak, loss, struggle and so on. […]