I know we all want to be liked and accepted, but constantly putting others’ needs before your own is a surefire way to burn out.
Trust me, I’ve been there – the endless cycle of saying yes when you really want to say no, sacrificing your own happiness for the sake of keeping the peace. It’s exhausting, isn’t it? And it carries a hidden cost.
But here’s the thing – you don’t have to live that way anymore. […]
Self-Care
Wish them Well & Let them Go
“Some people will not hear you regardless of how much, how loudly, how truthfully, how lovingly, or how profoundly you speak. Wish them well and let them go.”
Isn’t that just so true? It’s one of those harsh realities that we all have to face at some point in our lives.
No matter how hard we try, no matter how much effort we put into communicating our thoughts and feelings, there will always be people who just don’t get it. […]
How to Respond to the Heartbreaking News
So much happens around us every day that tugs at our heartstrings and evokes strong emotions.
We see heartbreaking stories of suffering, injustice and tragedy in the news, on social media and in our communities. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed by the sheer volume of pain out there.
Yet we must find a way to keep our emotional balance. Being overwhelmed with outrage and sorrow helps no one, least of all those who are suffering. […]
Loving Yourself
…And if I asked you to name all of the things that you love, how long would it take to name yourself?
The most important relationship you will ever have is with yourself. Loving yourself truly and deeply is the key to a happy and fulfilling life. If you lack self-love, you will see it affecting every aspect of your being, every relationship, even your professional life.
First and foremost, self-love leads to self-acceptance. […]
Be Aware of what you Say to Her
Be aware of what you say to her…
She listens.
She watches. She takes it all in.
She thinks you are beautiful.
Stop telling her you are on a diet.
She listens when you say you are fat, ugly or when things are wrong..
She listens as you cry, swear, step on the scale every single day and maybe several times a day and speak badly about yourself.
Because in her eyes, she will one day remember.. […]
And You are Exhausted…….
Have you been hard on yourself for feeling tired & unmotivated? Have you judged yourself for not achieving your goals? Well…. there is a reason why you are feeling that way: you may have been living in survival mode.
May be just getting through each day has taken everything you have. Dealing with stress, difficulties, and the constant pressure of getting it all done may have left you with nothing in the tank. It’s exhausting. […]
Repair in Relationships
Arguments and conflicts are a natural part of any relationship, but how those conflicts are resolved and repaired afterward greatly impacts the overall health and longevity of the relationship.
Underneath our encounters there are sometimes feelings of grief and sadness, the profound need to be seen, heard and understood, and a longing to reconnect.
Often, these arguments can open the door to renew the energy and intimacy of our bond with our partner. […]
Self-Care
I understand the urge to help others and make them happy. But it’s equally important to take care of yourself first. You cannot pour from an empty cup.
Recharging your own batteries is absolutely crucial. Taking time for yourself does not make you selfish – it makes you effective. When your energy is full, you can show up for others from a place of abundance rather than scarcity and burnout.
So give yourself permission to rest. […]
What Triggered You?
When someone’s behavior, words, or reaction in the present moment remind us of a painful experience in our past, we may have an exaggerated reaction. We are triggered.
The amygdala, which detects threats and controls emotional reactions, becomes activated.
Hormones like cortisol and adrenaline are released, preparing the body for “fight, flight, freeze or fawn.”
Our reactivity is automatic and unconscious: it may be to
FLEE (detach, dismiss and minimize), […]