Resources for Conscious Living
The DARVO Tactic is one of the most disorienting manipulation tactics out there, and once you know what it is, you’ll start seeing it everywhere.
DENY
ATTACK and
REVERSE VICTIM and
OFFENDER
It’s a way to shift blame away from the abuser and make you seem like the one at fault. […]
In a safe relationship you thrive. You feel safe to be who you are. Emotions are disclosed and talked about.
In our early childhood, some of us were conditioned to mind read, walk on egg shells, and be responsible for people’s emotions. We were hyper vigilant because we had to be, but not any more.
Walking on eggshells around someone can be one of the most mentally and emotionally draining experiences. […]
This quote encapsulates a powerful lesson we need to learn about valuing oneself and setting boundaries:
“This year, I learned to step away from people and spaces where I don’t feel valued.
I stopped overexplaining, forcing connections, and seeking validation from others. I trusted my intuition, set boundaries, and removed my energy without guilt.
I realized that protecting my peace is essential and that choosing myself is the greatest act of self-love.”
Isn’t that just so on point? […]
We’ve all been there – someone treats us poorly, and our first instinct is to take it personally. We wonder what we did wrong, or why they seem to have such an issue with us.
However, most of the time, it has absolutely nothing to do with us at all.
We are complex beings, dealing with their own baggage, their own fears and insecurities. The way they treat others is often just a reflection of the battles they’re fighting within themselves. […]
The term gaslighting is thrown around everywhere today because our communication skills are so underdeveloped, that we believe disagreement is a threat. Gaslighting involves intentional deception and it is a real and serious problem. It can drive a person insane.
Gaslighting is psychological abuse and, unfortunately, very common in relationships, and also a form of social and political manipulation. That’s why it is so important in this realm to research multiply forms of information, […]
