I know we all want to be liked and accepted, but constantly putting others’ needs before your own is a surefire way to burn out.
Trust me, I’ve been there – the endless cycle of saying yes when you really want to say no, sacrificing your own happiness for the sake of keeping the peace. It’s exhausting, isn’t it? And it carries a hidden cost.
But here’s the thing – you don’t have to live that way anymore. […]
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The Hidden Costs of Being a “People Pleaser” – And How to Break Free
Saying “no” can be one of the toughest things to do, especially for those of us who are people-pleasers at heart. We want to make others happy, even if it means sacrificing our own needs and desires. But this pattern of constant self-denial can lead us down a dangerous path of dissatisfaction, numbness, and eventual burnout.
When we’re always saying “yes” to others, we’re essentially saying “no” to ourselves. We’re denying our true selves the chance to speak up, […]
Have you ever Known a Relaxed Woman?
Growing up, I was surrounded by phenomenal women. Productive women. Ambitious women. Loving women. Fierce women.
But these women were also stressed women. Anxious women. Self-critical women. Exhausted women.
I saw how tired they were from trying to juggle it all — the career, the kids, the flat stomach and spotless house and home cooked meals.
I saw how they denied themselves rest until they felt like they’d earned it, only to feel lazy when they finally allowed themselves to slow down. […]
Afterwards, the Coffee Gets Cold
I would like to share with you a beautiful and significant poem about the inexorability passage of time, and what we can do to make the best of it. Enjoy
Barely the day started and
it’s already six in the evening.
Barely arrived on Monday
and it’s already Friday.
.. and the month is already over.
.. and the year is almost over.
.. and already 40, 50 or 60 years
of our lives have passed. […]
Wish them Well & Let them Go
“Some people will not hear you regardless of how much, how loudly, how truthfully, how lovingly, or how profoundly you speak. Wish them well and let them go.”
Isn’t that just so true? It’s one of those harsh realities that we all have to face at some point in our lives.
No matter how hard we try, no matter how much effort we put into communicating our thoughts and feelings, there will always be people who just don’t get it. […]
The Greatest Act of Self Love
This quote encapsulates a powerful lesson we need to learn about valuing oneself and setting boundaries:
“This year, I learned to step away from people and spaces where I don’t feel valued.
I stopped overexplaining, forcing connections, and seeking validation from others. I trusted my intuition, set boundaries, and removed my energy without guilt.
I realized that protecting my peace is essential and that choosing myself is the greatest act of self-love.”
Isn’t that just so on point? […]
Internal Struggles and Grace
We’ve all been there – someone treats us poorly, and our first instinct is to take it personally. We wonder what we did wrong, or why they seem to have such an issue with us.
However, most of the time, it has absolutely nothing to do with us at all.
We are complex beings, dealing with their own baggage, their own fears and insecurities. The way they treat others is often just a reflection of the battles they’re fighting within themselves. […]
Does Time Heal All Wounds?
Do you think time heals all wounds? The ox asked the rabbit.
The rabbit shook her head and replied, I don’t think it’s time that heals. It’s what you do with time that makes us better or worse.
Time can definitely help us gain some perspective and distance from painful experiences. But I don’t think it’s just the passage of time itself that really does the healing.
It’s what we actively do with that time that makes the biggest difference. […]
Don’t Let Others Disrespect You
We live in a world that constantly tells us to be kind, understanding, and forgiving towards others. And that’s great! Compassion is a beautiful thing. But here’s the catch – we can’t let our kindness towards others turn into cruelty towards ourselves.
Don’t make the mistake of being so understanding and forgiving that you overlook the fact that you are being disrespected. It’s a slippery slope. One moment you’re making excuses for someone’s bad behavior, […]
To Avoid Burn Out, Listen to your Body
“Listen to your body when it whispers so it does not have to scream”? It’s so true, and it’s a lesson we have to learn the hard way.
You may be running on fumes, ignoring the little signals your body has been sending you: The occasional headache, that nagging tight feeling in your shoulders, the exhaustion that never seems to go away no matter how much you sleep. You just power through, convincing yourself it is no big deal. […]
